Guilty as charged, we ES girls are mobile phone happy. With such fabulous Ellie Sanderson Facebook, Twitter, and Blog sites how could we not be? But we all know there is a time and a place. Is a wedding one of those?
We want to see your faces, not your devices
The majority of Bride and Grooms treat themselves to a professional photographer on their wedding day. Typically this professional isn’t cheap, but for most engaged couples it is a “Must Have”. You are guaranteed pictures you will love for a life time. As your photographer documents your day, you want him capturing moments of emotion, happiness, and more. You don’t want him to be capturing guests mid-tweet, mid-Iphone flash, or with cameras obscuring their faces. You also don’t want to be hearing a hundred clicks of camera buttons during your husband-to-be’s emotional I Do’s.
Share our day with us, not your view finder
Atmosphere at a wedding is so important. Will your guests really feel the emotion of your “I Do’s” when they are clicking buttons, touching screens, and fiddling with flashes? As the Bride and Groom you will have put a lot of time, money, and effort into making your day perfect. It is important your guests share the full experience with you! They should remember moments, emotions, and memories, a lot more than a picture.
Who invited Facebook?
Kindly ask guests to respect that you have invited them to your special day because you wanted to share this once in a lifetime moment with them. You don’t want your ceremony images to be shared all over the web before your party has even begun. #NOTCOOL! This is a day to remember with close friends and family.
As the doors open and you take your first step down the aisle, you want a clear vision straight ahead of your waiting Groom. You don’t want people out of their seats, leaning towards the aisle, finger at the ready hovering over the camera button waiting to capture that perfect image as you pass their seat.
Similarly, when your Groomsmen are having some official fun photos taken; you don’t want the perfect picture to be ruined because three are smiling at Aunt Isobel’s camera and two are looking at your Photographer’s lens.
Party Time: Let the real emotions out!
Consider asking guests to keep their digital devices away for the ceremony, but encourage them afterwards! It is likely your photographer will stay until the First Dance, but after that does anyone really want an official photo of themselves red-faced dancing the conga with the bridesmaids? Some do and some don’t, but we can guarantee these won’t be your treasured images blown up on canvas in your living room. Evening photographs will be the humorous, most likely alcohol induced, pictures that will certainly make you look back and laugh! These are the real life moments! Encourage your guests to share these in a private image sharing online album or phone application.
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Give Advance Warning
If you do decided to go ‘unplugged’ then be sure to let your guests know. Mention this on the invitation, Off Beat Bride have a great suggestion as to how to do this without offending anyone:
We want you to be able to relax and have fun with us today! This in mind, we invite you to put down all your favorite devices and just be present in the moment with us. Please leave your camera in your bag (we’ve got photography covered!), and put your cell phone on mute (we promise they’ll call back!).
We’re happy to share our professional wedding photos later, but the greatest gift you can give us today is just being fully here with us in this sacred and special moment.
If you decide to put a short note in your ceremony program instead, just make sure everybody has read that part before your day begins! It would be worth asking your ceremony officiant to say a brief sentence or two relating to this before the ceremony starts. Just don’t have a basket collection asking for phones to be handed in and then returned at the end- Now that IS rude!
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